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What is your advice for the man
who marries a woman, then divorces?

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Or what we call a serial marrier?

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Allah permitted it for a man.

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That he may marry one wife,
and that he may marry two wives.

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He may marry three wives,
or four.

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So Allah ﷻ has permitted this for him.

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But He also permitted him divorce.

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But a man should...

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He should not make people's honor
a plaything.

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He marries while intending
to divorce.

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Because he only wants to sample women.

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Nor does he marry intending
to stay with the woman.

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Rather, he marries to divorce.

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A year, two years, or less,
then he divorces her to marry another.

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And some of them boast, saying,
“I married a hundred.”

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I married seventy-something.

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And this, in fact, is not proper.

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Rather, it seems to me—
and Allah knows best.

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That it is not permissible for a man
to marry intending divorce.

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Rather, he must marry
intending permanence.

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So if a reason for divorce arises,
then he may divorce.

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That is because Islam forbade cheating
in a heap of food.

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So how can one imagine

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Islam forbids deception
in a pile of food.

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and permits deception
in matters of honor?

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When a man comes to propose to a woman,
planning to divorce her in a year or two.

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This is deceit toward the woman
and toward her guardian.

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From another angle, a person
does not like this for his daughters.

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So how can he like this for
the daughters of Muslims?

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From another angle,
there is harm in this.

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If this man is among the
students of knowledge.

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Then this gives a bad image
of the students of knowledge.

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And makes people turn away from them.

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And no one should cite some stories
about some of the Salaf.

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For these are exceptions
to the rule. The principle

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is respecting Muslims' honor,
safeguarding it, not toying with it.

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And when a person marries,
he only does so.

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intending it to last.

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Then if things do not work out,
and a reason for divorce is found.

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Allah permitted divorce,
and there is no power...

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And no power except with Allah.

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And my advice to Muslims:
Be kind to women.

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For it was advice from the Prophet ﷺ
at the end of his life.

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So we should uphold it
and treat them well.

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And honor them, for none honors
them but a noble man.

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And none demeans them but a vile man.

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And my advice to women.

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They should uphold men's rights.

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And they should not restrict
what Allah ﷻ has permitted.

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For Allah ﷻ has given men permission.

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To marry one woman,
and to marry two.

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And to marry three,
and to marry four.

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So a Muslim woman should not
follow misleading dramas.

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that portray this as a crime,
betrayal, and a broken pledge.

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For Allah only permitted it
because of the good in it.

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With everyone striving
to show kindness.

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And I ask Allah ﷻ to grant everyone
goodness and guidance.