1
00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:06,476
Some young men delay marriage
for no reason. What do you advise?

2
00:00:06,560 --> 00:00:11,880
And what is your advice to parents
who inflate dowries and marriage costs?

3
00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:18,980
By Allah, whoever delays marriage
without cause should consult a doctor.

4
00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:37,180
What is prescribed, dear ones
for a Muslim.

5
00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:44,560
He should hasten to marry.
This is ordained by Sharia, not a custom.

6
00:00:46,320 --> 00:00:48,700
Because the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said.

7
00:00:49,620 --> 00:00:56,160
"O young men, whoever among you
can afford marriage, let him marry."

8
00:00:57,220 --> 00:01:03,260
"For it better guards chastity
and lowers the gaze."

9
00:01:03,580 --> 00:01:08,320
"And if he cannot, let him fast,
for it is for him."

10
00:01:08,460 --> 00:01:08,920
a shield.

11
00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:13,220
The Prophet ﷺ addresses the youth.

12
00:01:14,260 --> 00:01:18,040
"O young men, whoever among you
has the means to marry."

13
00:01:18,860 --> 00:01:24,160
Whoever has the ability
to marry, let him marry.

14
00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:30,380
For it better guards chastity
and better lowers the gaze.

15
00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:36,840
“And whoever cannot,
let him fast; it is a shield for him.”

16
00:01:37,540 --> 00:01:41,980
Meaning, it weakens desire
in him. So the advice is.

17
00:01:43,140 --> 00:01:48,980
The advice for anyone able to marry
is to obey the Messenger's command.

18
00:01:50,020 --> 00:01:53,840
ﷺ, and this command
is for guidance.

19
00:01:55,140 --> 00:02:00,380
Because the Prophet ﷺ made
its benefit accrue to the person.

20
00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:03,960
And goodness is in the Prophet's
guidance.

21
00:02:04,780 --> 00:02:07,080
ﷺ.

22
00:02:07,980 --> 00:02:10,600
As for one who is unable.

23
00:02:11,260 --> 00:02:15,510
He must remain obedient
and increase his fasting.

24
00:02:16,340 --> 00:02:22,720
As for advice to guardians,
it is to make marriage easy.

25
00:02:24,300 --> 00:02:28,860
For in marriage there is
protection of honor.

26
00:02:31,420 --> 00:02:36,440
And it is no honor for a woman
that her dowry be made costly.

27
00:02:37,900 --> 00:02:46,360
For the Prophet ﷺ did not make
his wives' or daughters' dowries high.

28
00:02:48,780 --> 00:02:55,760
"The most blessed women are
those with the least expense".

29
00:02:57,300 --> 00:03:02,300
So part of marriage's blessing
is that the dowry be affordable.

30
00:03:04,100 --> 00:03:04,640
How?

31
00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:10,100
And today we see
that women are increasing.

32
00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:18,920
And that many girls
remain in their fathers' homes.

33
00:03:20,920 --> 00:03:21,940
Still unmarried.

34
00:03:24,260 --> 00:03:30,440
And it is blatant injustice
and sin.

35
00:03:31,260 --> 00:03:38,560
for a guardian to hold back
a vulnerable woman for his own gain.

36
00:03:41,460 --> 00:03:48,540
As if he wants to take her salary
for a number of years.

37
00:03:49,980 --> 00:03:55,560
Or he waits for his young nephew
to grow up.

38
00:03:56,940 --> 00:04:01,540
To marry him to her.
That is not permissible.

39
00:04:02,940 --> 00:04:07,500
And guardianship is care.

40
00:04:07,620 --> 00:04:13,240
It is not domination.
And Allah ﷻ will ask.

41
00:04:14,660 --> 00:04:18,840
Everyone entrusted with a flock
will answer for his flock.

42
00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:23,420
So let him prepare his answer.
Yes.