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The questioner says:
I've been married for ten years.

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And Allah has not granted me
children.

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The medical tests for me and my wife
are normal.

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But Allah's decree is greater.
My question.

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What is the Islamic ruling on
my mother asking me to divorce my wife?

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Allah be praised.

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It is in Allah's hands.

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And everything has its appointed term.
And man does not know.

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And our brother, the questioner,
mentioned they had medical tests.

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They were normal
in the doctors' view.

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And hope is

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in Allah ﷻ.

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And we know many people.

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They got married, and nearly twenty
years passed in their marriage.

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Then they were blessed with children.

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In fact, we know.

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Among scholars are those who reached
sixty and had no children.

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And after sixty, he was granted
a number of children.

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And this is Allah's decree;
He carries it out as He wills.

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So my advice to the brother
is to attach his heart to Allah.

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And that he should ask Allah ﷻ often
to grant him offspring.

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And not leave him childless.

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As for the mother,
she loves her son.

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And she wants what is best
for him.

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And she wants to see him have children.

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And this love may lead her
to what the brother mentioned.

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And my advice, if the wife
is righteous.

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You should strive to please your mother
and not divorce your wife.

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For obeying parents is not obligatory.

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In divorcing one's wife,
except for a flaw in conduct or faith.

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And a man came to Imam Ahmad.

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He said, "My father orders me
to divorce my wife, and she is fine."

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He said, "Do not divorce her."
He said, "But Umar..."

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had ordered his son, Abdullah,
to divorce his wife, so he did.

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He said, "If your father
is like Umar."

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Umar (RA) only ordered him
for a shar'i reason.

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So my advice, my brother, is
to strive to please your mother.

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And lower to her the wing
of humility, and humble yourself.

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And kiss her head, hands, and feet.

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And do not divorce your wife.

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And if you find no way to please
your mother and see she's angry.

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So the advice is to favor the wife
who has been your kind companion.

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And tell her that you want
to marry another wife.

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So that you may keep her with you.

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So that no more pressure is put on you
to leave her.

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And please the wife.
And marry a second wife.

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And by Allah, I know a number of
stories I have personally witnessed.

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A couple lived for over.

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...than seventeen years
without children.

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So the man took another wife.

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Then both became pregnant together
and both gave birth together.

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I know this exact case,
and I know others like it too.

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Your marriage to another may be a cause.

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for having children by both wives.

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This is what I advise,
while asking Allah first and last.

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to set your affairs right.

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and make your mother pleased with you.
Yes.